What I Wish I Knew Before Starting My Healing Journey

Because healing isn’t instant, and you’re not alone.

There’s something no one tells you when you’re desperate for healing:

It’s not just about feeling better.

It’s about becoming.

When I first started my healing journey, I thought it would be more like flipping a switch, pray, cry, rest, and move on. But healing doesn’t work like that. If you’re in the thick of it, wondering why it’s taking so long or why it still hurts, I want to share with you a few things I wish someone had told me.

1. Healing is not linear.

Some days you’ll feel like you’re finally free, and then something triggers you, and you’re back in the tears, the questions, the doubt. That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human. Healing often looks like spirals, not straight lines. Progress happens in the small steps you take to show up for yourself every day.

2. You can’t do it alone.

I used to think I had to pray harder, be stronger, or “get over it.” But God didn’t create us to heal in isolation. I needed safe spaces, mentors, community, counseling, and eventually coaching. Healing flourishes in relationship. You don’t have to carry it all. You’re not weak for needing help. You’re wise.

3. Your story matters, even the messy parts.

There are parts of my life I once felt ashamed of, seasons I wanted to hide. But I’ve learned that those very chapters are the ones God uses most to bring healing to others. Your story isn’t just something you survive. It’s something God can redeem. Every tear, every scar, has purpose.

4. Healing takes intention, not just time.

Time alone doesn’t heal wounds. What you do with the time matters. I had to learn how to process pain, challenge lies I believed, unlearn survival patterns, and invite God into the hard places. That’s when real healing began.

5. There is hope, even here.

If you’re in a place where it still hurts, please don’t give up. Healing is possible. There’s more ahead of you than what’s behind. And the best part? You don’t have to walk this road alone.

💬 Final Thought:

If this resonates with you, maybe it’s time to stop walking in circles and start walking in purpose. Coaching changed how I saw myself, my story, and my next steps. It might be your next step too.